Is there an emotion that is preventing you from feeling good in any aspect of your life? How to change certain repetitive situations that bother us? Many times we act in a certain way and we don’t know why. Where do the blocks to establish healthy social relationships or with our partners come from? Why does the disease affect us in this or another way? These are some of the questions that “Constellation” can solve.
“Balance does not mean avoiding conflicts, it implies the strength to tolerate painful emotions and to be able to handle them. If we dissociate painful emotions excessively, we restrict the personality and provoke varied inhibitions. From this, it follows that mental health is not compatible with superficiality, since this is linked to the denial of internal conflict and external difficulties. Denial is used in an excessive way because the ego is not strong enough to tolerate pain”. Klein, Melanie (1960) “On Mental Health”. (On Mental Health).
It is then that we can consider the importance of Family Constellations Therapy, which allows us to improve different aspects of our life such as health, the couple, the economy, work, and personal relationships, by freeing ourselves from emotionally intense events (tensions/conflicts) that usually come from the experiences lived by our ancestors, parents, grandparents, great-grandparents, and others – whether they are dead or alive.
What topics can you address during your Family Constellation Therapy?
The topics covered in Family Constellations are varied, for this reason, it is important that you have a reason for consultation – clear and specific question – to discuss during your session.
The topic of the questions that a constellation can carry out must refer to a specific situation that is affecting your present time. For example: Why do I feel stuck? Why can’t I find a partner? Why can’t I feel sexual pleasure? Why do I feel dissatisfied? Why can’t I feel Done? Why do I always establish relationships with people who behave like parents/children? Why am I ‘unlucky’ in life? Why don’t I get the money?
A wide range of previous stories can manifest themselves in our present, causing problems such as depression, psychosis, fears, migraines, chronic fatigue, self-esteem, stress, anxiety, feelings of abandonment, or problems in relationships with our partners and/or the environment in general.
Our emotional problems somatize and greatly affect our physical and spiritual well-being. healthy mind Healthy Body.
By understanding and reorganizing family dynamics, through therapy, we can change the understanding of our family role and we manage to find solutions that allow us to restore order in our lives, in a healthy way, benefiting ourselves, and consequently, benefiting the rest. of our family. This allows us to access our real strength, energy, use of their abilities and brings us closer to finding solutions and peace.
If you are a father/mother, through them, you can also help your children to solve the issues that block them.
One of the most important factors during Family Constellation therapy is that it does not perceive us as an isolated unit, but as part of a great family dynamic, considered a network based on an order of love, which has been established before our birth. .
If the order prevails, the members of the family will enjoy fullness, if, on the contrary, the order is altered, it can bring negative consequences, which are manifested in the new members of the family.
If the family dynamics have not been healthy, probably our current role has not been optimal, and prevents the achievement of our fullness.
Try this exercise
Our expert in Family Constellations, Gero Figueroa, proposes as a preliminary exercise to think about a possible question.
Visualize a situation that does not work well in your life, perhaps it is something that you have been observing for a long time, or something recent. Maybe it’s not about you but about someone you love.
Once you have found what ails you, ask yourself: Is this a repetitive situation? Does it affect someone else in the family or only me? Does it especially affect men or perhaps only Women? Do I blame someone or does someone blame me for this situation? Am I repeating a pattern from my parents or grandparents?
One thing you can do to feel some relief is to repeat to yourself: “I’ve had enough of [the situation at hand], thank you for teaching me, but I don’t need more. Now you can go in peace and let me go my way ”.
How are the sessions?
The Family Constellations are worked through an individual or group session, which focuses on solving a question asked by you, related to some aspect of your life that you want to modify. To address this question, Gero uses theories of genealogy, family hierarchies, implications, and family loyalties, among others.
The ultimate goal is to solve the question and free yourself from the family ties that prevent your happiness.
In the individual sessions, Gero uses a board in order to represent your family position, the position of your parents and ancestors. The current history of your reality will reflect an initial image, and from there, a final image will be built based on a healthy and organized order based on the understanding of hierarchies.
In this way, you will understand what was part of the past, what was affecting your present. You will understand and modify it with love. This being beneficial for you, your relatives, and future generations.
Why try Family Constellations?
Because it was enough to live this way. Our maximum expression as humans is reached when we stop living a life limited by previous models and we begin to create one for ourselves.
But to travel that path, we must first free it from the family ideals that invade them and cloud the clarity of our action. You must be willing to look at and understand the past.
The best thing about all this is that the familiar soul – which is made up of all your ancestors – also wants you to move towards your fulfillment because its essential principle is the order in love.
What will you achieve?
1) Realize that it is not necessary to live limitedly.
2) By taking care of yourself, it will not only benefit you, but you will help restore your family order.
3) Having a healthy and balanced family image will, as a consequence, make your relationships with the rest of the world work in balance, including love, friendship, work, money, health, etc.
What are the means to carry out a Family Constellation?
The Family Constellations sessions are individual and are carried out in person or online (Zoom, Google Meet, or WhatsApp).
During the session, the situation that afflicts you is addressed, in addition to showing you the basic fundamentals of genealogy, father and mother energy, and reaching personal balance.
Finally, it gives you the tools to find a solution to your question, and a series of acts are provided to reinforce the result in your daily life.
Do I need to be with my family for the session?
No, you don’t need it. The session will only be between you and the therapist.
You must be in a quiet space and in which you can speak freely. The information is completely confidential.
How long is the duration of a Family Constellation session?
If it is your first session, the duration will be approximately 2 hours. In the case that you have already had previous sessions, the duration varies between 1 and 1.5 hours
How long does a Family Constellation session last?
If it is your first session, the duration will be approximately 2 hours. In the case that you have already had previous sessions, the duration varies between 1 and 1.5 hrs.
The results that are obtained are usually very positive since finding the root of the problem and later working on it is just what you need to achieve the change. The results are the resolution of emotional and even physical problems by finding your place in the constellation and knowing the way in which the behavior and events related to members of your family can resonate with you, even if it is unconsciously.
Our place in the family and this in itself profoundly affects our personality, the way we perceive the world, and the things we can experience.
Would you like to schedule a session?
You can schedule sessions from anywhere in the world by writing to email@example.com or What’s App +57 3053459337/ +61 449068909 or our email firstname.lastname@example.org. There you can attach your name and any questions you have.
We will be more than happy to help you with any questions and making your Family Constellation Therapy online or in-person (depending on where you are). The session can be in Spanish or English.
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Written by Natalia Tobon- email@example.com. Information based on personalized interviews and articles provided by our experts in family constellations.